Its been forever since I updated! Life has been insane and unpredictable and so many changes have occurred in such a brief period of time.
I have moved, changed jobs and released a great deal of toxicity from my life (for good) that had been long overdue. There is never a reason to judge someone, however their actions or inactions do say a lot about their character. I spent time with a group of girls and one in particular was incredibly nasty and a known bully however I attempted to give her the benefit of the doubt (until she proved me wrong). She did. Not only that, but those few weeks I spent with her, I was horrified how she treated and spoke to and about others. After banishing her from my company, I looked at the other group of girls and wondered what it said about them for spending so much time with her so willingly.
No bother, it is no longer any of my concern and I’ve learned that people usually do not surprise you (at least not in a good way). After making some of the previously mentioned changes, it was no surprise to hear that said girls were now spewing my name endlessly in a less than complimentary way.
On to important things. I have maintained friendships with some wonderful people I have since had to leave behind after my big move and my new job excites me immensely (as does my new, generous salary!) I thought I had it good before, if I’d only knew. I still spend time with the good eggs I had to leave behind, two of which will most definitely be in attendance at my wedding.
My significant other has been spoiling me relentlessly after some of the things I’ve gone through and I can’t say I mind. Much of my recent purchases have been extra soft over-sized sweaters, some acquired from Zara’s immense sale (one is a gorgeous green with tan leather elbow patches that looks perfect paired with my brown riding boots). I have been living in these sweaters and soft lounge pants during my break from work (somewhat, I have done some contract work) but it has been a joy to wake up without a start having to scroll through my Blackberry to see what has been piled on my plate during my slumber.
A lot that has happened has also made me realize how fortunate I am to have a man in my life. Not a boy or guy, not a frat boy hanging onto his school years bouncing a ping pong ball into a plastic cup, not a guy taking endless streams of classes to forgo growing up and not some grungy boy pursuing some fruitless dream in a talentless garage band. I have a self-less man that knew what he wanted (one of those things being me) and went after it with all that he had. He is clearly the best person I know and not a day goes by that I do not remind myself how fortunate I am for the things his mere presence has taught me. Not only that, but I have never felt more confident and secure with who I am and that has enabled me to do a lot of things I never imagined myself capable.
More updates when I return from my brief trip (or while on the road perhaps)!
Ashley T
July 1, 2012See, you put a Mean Girls picture up and I read this entire thing in Cady's voice! My friends don't understand why I can so easily ditch people who are of no value to me. You're defined by the company you keep. It's not worth being around someone who is such a Debbie Downer.
I'm actually not on speaking terms with a close friend of mine, because she has for the past year not invited me places or not invited some other girl somewhere if I was going to be there. Mind you, the girl is a bully and everyone knows it. She was her usual self to one of my bff's (who she didn't know) and I said enough is enough. My friend(s) would rather separate us or not acknowledge she is a problem, instead of DEALING with her being a problem. I'm good with that and good for you for moving on.
It's never easy to have the courage to stand up to your enemies, let alone your friends (HARRY POTTER 1 REFERENCE!!! :-), but that doesn't mean it doesn't need to be done. If you can't say without hesitancy or qualification "yes, So and So is my friend,"——then they aren't your friend. Move on.
–"If your Presence cannot add value to my life, your Absence will make no difference"